Why it's hard to manifest for yourself?

Mar 13, 2023

Why does it seem like I can manifest for others so easily, but not for myself?


When you’re manifesting for someone else, you aren’t feeling need. Simply desire, excitement and joy for them. There’s no resistance to the manifestation.


However, if you look at someone who didn’t know about or believe in manifestation, perhaps like some of your family and friends, it would also be true that these people’s thoughts would be creating, on autopilot, for everyone in their lives.


This means if your family and friends still believe the old version of you is what’s true, they will be manifesting that on autopilot, with very little resistance.


Causing all kinds of resistance for you to manifest the change you desire.


The trick here is to do what I did when I went from zero self esteem to publishing my first book, One Truth, One Law: I Am, I Create and selling 80k copies.


I created a new story about who I was and how life went for me.


Every time I was around my family and friends, who believed quite strongly in the old, zero self esteem version of me, I would “sell” them my new story.


When they tried to remind me of how hard life was, or how old we were all getting, instead of agreeing with them and going into a poor me story like I used to, I would interrupt them with my new story, saying something like this…


“I used to feel that way too! But I’ve been making some small changes and I’ve been noticing life getting easier and easier for me.”


“I used to feel that way too! But I’ve been making some small changes and I feel like I’ve been getting younger and younger every day.”


I got a lot of really weird looks.


Sometimes I could tell they thought I was crazy.


But it worked. They stopped believing I was a hopeless case. They started believing that I was going somewhere.


And their subconscious thoughts began to manifest what they were seeing as my new reality.


Now, there’s another aspect to this: you have to be able to read a room.


What I mean by this is that you have to be able to tell if the people around you are at a higher or lower frequency than you.




If they’re at a lower frequency, and your frequency is the highest in the room, you want to hold your frequency when they try to drag you down into “poor me” discussions. 


But if you’re in a room with people at a higher frequency, you shouldn’t be trying to hold your frequency. You should let your frequency go and share your truth with them - the things you’re struggling to move through. Through letting go and trusting that you’ve been led to a higher frequency space, you can begin to calibrate to their higher frequency and they can lead you there. The worst that will happen is they will come down to meet your frequency. The best that can happen is they will show you how to rise up to your next level.


As you practice and get better at holding your frequency, you can share your truth more authentically in ALL rooms and still bring everyone up and rise up yourself at the same time.


Energies are tricky, and it’s why it takes time in the physical world to manifest our desires. There’s a lot of factors going on, and we need time to practice being the new version of us. 


Let me know if this is helpful!

 Erin Werley is a bestselling author at the forefront of spiritual awakening and ascension. Her books, One Truth, One Law: I Am, I Create and Lightworkers 101 simplify the concepts of oneness, manifestation, and energy. She has been channeling God since 2011. She uses quantum energy healing lightwork to transform your energetic footprint and move you on to the ascension timeline. Her mission is to welcome you to the ascension. Excited to learn how? Click here.