Weekly Guidance June 13, 2023Jun 13, 2023
Yesterday, a salesman came to our door selling bug spray for our yard. What was interesting was that he didn’t talk to us about how great the bug spray was, or about how nice it would be for us to have a bug free yard.
No, what he talked about was that our neighbors were doing it. That our neighbors loved having a bug free yard. That SO MANY OF OUR NEIGHBORS blah blah blah. Every single sentence started with our neighbors.
NONE of it was about us.
This is a common strategy in sales: KNOWING that people are afraid to make decisions, the salesperson doesn’t tell you that this is a good idea for you, instead they tell you that other people think it’s a good idea.
This is because most people don’t trust themselves to make decisions. But if all your neighbors need it and love it, it’s probably a good idea for you, right?
Anyway, in general I’d rather have bugs in my yard than chemicals, so we said no.
But also, I’ve reached a place in my life where I no longer care what my neighbors are or aren’t doing. It simply doesn’t factor into my decision making.
Here’s why: If I would have been following what my neighbors were doing, I’d still be a nurse and I’d still be miserable.
I broke the mold on normal completely when I published One Truth, One Law. It took me 8 years to do because I was so scared to do things differently than everyone else.
But now that I’ve done it again, and again, and again….
I’m SO glad.
And so it no longer matters to me what everyone else does. If I were to follow them, I’d be leaving my dreams behind in the dust.
But it wasn’t easy to trust myself to make my own decisions.
I was so afraid it would all blow up in my face.
But I follow these steps every time I need to trust myself, and it’s never once blown up in my face! Because the universe really does have your back when you’re trusting yourself.
Step number one to trust yourself is to dream big. You gotta know who you want to be if you’re going to have any chance of getting there. Imagine a pilot flying an airplane without a destination. He’d fly around in circles, never getting anywhere, for years! Without a big dream, this is what your life looks like. Give yourself a destination!
Next, ask I Am / God / Source for guidance on what your next step is to get you closer to your big dream.
Often, you’ll be told to release something that’s not in alignment to start with.
For example, if your big dream is to marry your soulmate, but you’re in the middle of a long term relationship that’s been making you miserable for years, you gotta release that first.
If your big dream is to create your dream body, but you hate to move your body, you may need to release those thoughts of hate and create new ones of loving to move your body.
OR, you may be guided to a specific book or course.
Your first step could look like anything, but here’s where the trust comes in:
Your first step will be the hardest. You haven’t done this before, so it really might feel like it will all blow up in your face.
Take the first step anyway.
Then go back for guidance and ask for the next step.
This is how it works, one step at a time. You can’t get more than one step at a time, because the universe rearranges second by second. The next step isn’t created until you complete the one in front of you.
Taking this first step and seeing that it didn’t blow up in your face is what BUILDS your knowing and trust in yourself and your ability to go after your dreams and do hard things.
Some call it inspired action, and that’s what it is.
The more often you do it, the easier it becomes.
My first time took me 8 years, because the ONLY person telling me it was a good idea was my inner voice.
I didn’t have anyone like me to tell me it was safe.
So I’m telling you that it’s the ONLY form of safety that exists, to trust yourself.
Now, I trust myself almost instantly to act on things that are often terrifying.
Everything ALWAYS works out for me when I trust myself.
And it will be the same for you.
One caveat here: is that things don’t always work out the way I expected them to. But in retrospect, I always see how they ended up working better than I could have imagined.